Great post, Dr. Gail. A lot of couples think their "rut" is normal and that's how it's supposed to be. It's important to remember that sex should be exciting, fulfilling, and fun. After all, that's why we started doing it in the first place, right?

Cheers,
Kristen King
www.LivelyWomen.com

What if HE is the one that is tired from working all day? My husband is a Doctor and is pooped by the time he gets home.

I have the same question as MM, What if hubby is always tired?

If he is too tired or not interested...the same principles apply...adding novelty, having date nights (when he hasn't been working like saturdays) and talking about any problmes between you. In addition, however, if he is never interested he should have his testosterone level checked as a low level can cause loss of desire. Medical problmes can cause erectile dysfunction which then leads to avoidance, so I would recommend a check up. Also tell him how much the seual relationship matters to you and that you really want him to work on it with you.
Gail Saltz

Are there any new blood pressure meds that are not as bad for sexual drive as the old one were? Thanks

What if you don't have chemistry with your mate at all, and faking it just isn't in you? I fear my marriage will fail if something doesn't change soon. I love him, and I'm highly sexual - just not for him. What can I do?

have no interest in sex 54 yrs old

At the beginning of Dr. Saltz segment, I saw a dice game with ideas to "get things started"...looked as if with the roll of a dice you could get a back rub, passionate kiss, etc....I think they're a great idea...where would I purchase the dice/game?

I am in Premenopause. I have no sex drive, very very dry to where no lubricate helps. What can I do?

I feel like I could lie there and read a book while he "has" sex with me. For him it more like a bodily function -- feels good, therefore do it often. No emotional connection, just role over, have sex, and then get up and get about the day. I'm mostly not interested, so he gets teed off.

My wife simply does not like sex in any form. We have done the plain, vanilla missionary only. I think there is something from her past, but try nd talk and I am beheaded. She is very attractive to me and takes care of herself. I just don't know why she must wall herself in and leave me out.

From a summer residence I go to 7 o'clock in the morning on a bicycle for work. In the beginning of the house has put into itself the order, has a little had a rest, pressure 120-140 on 70-80. Whether a question it is possible to work in the after WBR LeoP

we have sex now every 2-3 months and only if we have had a few drinks and i approach her. even then she is more interested in what is on the t. v. Why does my wife not want sex with me. Im a good husband and do everything for her and my son.We get along and are relationship is good but she has no interest in me sexual . What can i do?

I'm 40 and I feel that I just don't get to have sex enough. My spouse just isn't interested in it. I have tried everything I can think of. He is 38, our last child graduates in just a few months, but he is never at home any more, so we are always at home by ourselves. I'm just wondering what might help us in this problem

This site deals with exactly this stressful time that requires you find ways to connect and be intimate with your partner. In addition, later in marriage when you grow tired of the same old thing.
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we have only been married for about 2 years and together for about 6 years We are both in our mid 20's We have children together and at one point had a really great sexual relationship but now he doesnt seem interested in me at all. I have tried many times to initiate and it gets me nowhere, so then i try to talk to him about it and he just gets angry with me. Emotionally im drained. I feel unwanted, rejected, and undesirable. When he initiates on the rare occasion i go for it but feel so used that i ususally cry after, and i feel this mainly due to the fact whenever i try i get turned down. He says it annoys him when i try to talk to him about it, but it is a really big thing to me and i dont want to carry on like this. I know my marriage is comming to an end if nothing changes soon. Is there ever a point where it has mentally and emotionally turned into a control/abuse situation?

I have got back my sex drive by Sentia pills for women. I know it sounds strange but I didn't want sex at all. My husband was depressed. I have also tried diets and exercises.

I think that the problem of low sex drive is connected with psychology but sometimes we can't solve psychological problems so we treat our sole through our body. Sentia pills are rather helpful. I never had such problems with sex drive as a year ago and Sentia was the only thing that helped me.

Men must get their daily amount of water and salt.

Bruce

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Wow! I feel so relieved that other people are going through this and not just me. My partner says that she has a low sex drive and would rather sleep than have sex. I understand that she is a nurse and works 12 hours a day. What about the days when she is off though? The rejection hurts and it makes me feel like I am not attractive to her or that something is wrong with me. I have read the suggestions of making meals. The next thing I am going to try is making our bedroom romantic. I am going to find out about the maca and schizanda berries. I am willing to try anything to get her in the mood more often.