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Heather Mills
A lot of people are wondering what is going on with Heather Mills and her latest announcement about going on the offensive with the media and thinking of suicide. Whether you like her or not, or whether you think she is in the right or wrong in her divorce, the fact remains that the media has ganged up on her in a Lord of the Flies manner and is essentially bullying her. Being truly bullied is no small matter. Being the victim of bullying has led many an adolescent to depression, anxiety, violent behavior and even suicide. It is very possible that she is not exaggerating the toll this has taken on her and her life.
Unfortunately, at the same time, Paul McCartney is a tremendously beloved and idealized figure and so anything she has publicly said that is negative about him is backfiring. No one likes to have a hero insulted, and so there will be no public support for her as long as she says negative things about him. But in a divorce the truth tends to be that it does take two to tango and both parties have done something wrong. Just as often neither person can see the other's point of view and therefore each tends to feel they are in the right.
People often want to believe one person is the villain and to blame; it makes us more comfortable and we can identify with that scenario more easily than the murky waters of both parties involved in the demise. Heather Mills has failed to make herself a very sympathetic figure because the way she speaks about her importance ("I am responsible for thousands of people's lives!") sounds self-aggrandizing and is repelling others, even though it may be very true that she has been very altruistic toward others.
Sadly, the one who may be suffering the most is their daughter. To even hear that your mother feels suicidal, let alone living with someone who is very depressed and anxious can be terribly traumatic. You might wonder how any good mother could think of suicide, but the fact remains that someone suffering from the extremes of depression and anxiety cannot necessarily hold onto her usual thinking, and feels only desperate and cornered. Death can seem the only way out. Any threat of suicide should really be taken seriously and evaluated by a trained professional. Some of what goes on with the media and celebrities amounts to bullying and we as a nation could be stating that we don't want to see that. Bullying only begets bullies. This is what we may be seeing in the Mills case, she going on the attack to try to turn the tables.
Again, no one really wins, least of all the child.
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I only wish more people knew about histrionic and narcissistic personality disorders. Then people like her might be better understood and we would learn not to give attention to their dramas and manipulations for attention. And just maybe they would seek professional help, although doubtful. I've seen too many parents traumatize their children because they are not and probably never will be diagnosed with a personality disorder.
Sorry, I feel she is doing herself no favors. When asked if she could seee anything she could have done differently in the marriage she said no and then went on to say it was all his fault. She even based a peaceful divorce on him publicly admitting it was his fault. She has a history of blaming others and telling lies about them. He isn't perfect (who is), but he appears to at least keep things private for his daughter. Heather claiming she has kept silent until now is a lie and it is proven by her current claims. This is what "sources close to Heather" have been saying for a long time in the papers. She doesn't like the papers because they bring up her faults and people still like Paul more. She thinks only of herself.
She has a history of bringing down any person who dares to disagree with her. She is a user of people and once they catch on she tries to be the one to discard them. In this case she was discarded. She can't handle it. No one does that to her. She is the one who has to leave first, and leave the party involved 'devastated' without her. She portrays herself as having a life as a victim where she never has done a thing wrong. She has used stories from her book and changed the names from her father to Paul. She has stolen peoples identities. She has sold her story to the highest bidder. She claims to be charitble yet never kept records of money earned. Yet she manages to drive a variety of high end cars and live in million dollar homes. And this is before Paul came into the picture. How can that be? She talks fast and interupts so no one can challenge her to her face. I don't know the name of her disorder, but it is clear she is suffering from one.
The doctor is right about being bullied, but missed the fact that she in
fact is a bully herself, who can't take it when the tables are turned. Most bullies are loudmouth cowards. While nobody deserves harsh treatment in the media, she brings it on herself for the most part. I have a big problem with her saying I told him if he would admit the break up was his fault totally, she would give him an easy divorce. Isn't that blackmail, or being a bully. She admitted in the everchanging interviews she has given in the last two days.
I'd have to agree with the first commenter about the narcissistic personality disorder. However, all things considered, I'd guess that Heather is a Borderline Personality Disorder. I think she needs help, but this is not a disorder easily treated if she does exhibit this.
Heather Mills: Mmmmmm, what can I say? How many times did she have to tell the world on dancing with the stars, that she's got one leg. WE GET IT LADY! YA GOT ONE LEG. I'm sorry for her loss, but how many times do we need to hear this?
NOW, did she say, she would have walked away with nothing, if Paul would have said it was all his fault?
IF that's the case, then why doesn't she just settle? Instead offered many millions and millions of dollars/pounds and she still won't settle.
Sounds like SHE wants this to go on and on and I, for one, am SICK OF IT....
Um, Janet? You've made a whole lot of accusations, there, and haven't put any backup into it - as in "where's the proof?". I'm not saying Heather's right in what she's doing, but neither are you when you throw out accusations with absolutely no facts presented to support them.
As far as a divorce, and seeking settlements, and children and on and on and on.....
Been married, been through divorce.
It takes two to make a marriage work and in only the very very very tiniest of percentages does it take only one partner to make it fail. There is fault, if you need to call it that, on both sides and we (the public) will probably never know - and do not NEED to know - who did what to whom or why. It should be handled in the privacy of their own lives if for no other reason than (the obviously no longer very) common decency.
If only!
Liking Heather or not liking her based on a public persona should have nothing to do with the legal decisions involved in her court case.
One is opinion; the other is law.
I agree with Heather. They do have a daughter together and she has to be taken care of. Its not unfair for Heather to get a fair amount from Paul. The guy is loaded and he was married to her for 7 years. As far as golddigger...She's not. If she was, she would have left him within the first year. Leave her alone.
I aint sayin she's a goldigger...but, she wasnt messin around with a broke beatle!
Yes, it just so happened that Heather hooked up with a very rich beatle. He must have thought she was something...he married her. Lucky for her! Now he needs to pay the piper. She did give him a beautiful daughter. I see nothing unreasonable about what she's asking. Paul, just do the right thing.
Some men just don't want to give it up financially, ya know? That little girl would be living a very privileged life if he and Heather stayed together. Why shouldn't she have that same opportunity? Just because her father isn't living with them, doesn't mean she shouldn't get the same treatment that she would, had they stayed together!
Well, I will say she is a golddigger. And a psycho, too.
This crazy one legged psycho needs some meds bad! Paul was right to get away from her, and it's worth any price just to make her go away. Paul was just on the rebound anyway after Linda died...he clearly wasnt over her yet and was trying to compensate for his loss by marrying that sociopath.
Dont you think sociopath is just a bit harsh? I havent seen anykind of behavior to indicate she is a sociopath. Well, I guess Paul should have just tucked him self away and he would have never hooked up with Heather but he did. I dont feel sorry for him. Oh and crazy one legged psycho....thats cruel.
I dont think you know what a sociopath is pixie. Google is your friend, but, here are a few signs of Anti-social disorder that this golddigger Mills has displayed: Does not accept blame, but blames others. Grandiose Sense of Self. Pathological Lying. Glibness, Narcissism and Superficial Charm. Manipulative and Conning. Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle. Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt. A sense of extreme entitlement. Now there are many more examples, but, too many to list here. I think I have proved my point quite thoroughly. Too bad you dont feel sorry for him, because I certainly do. Mostly, I feel bad for their daughter as well as anyone who has to deal with her.
She is none of those. Why dont you El Brujo, direct YOUR points to say ummmmm Scott Peterson there's a sociopath. The two dont compare to each other. Sounds like you have something personal against her. Do you?
Well now pixie, scott peterson might be a sociopath, but, you are just trying to deflect and change the subject here, as the topic is clearly heather mills, and has nothing to do with scott peterson. If you cannot use google and find all the interviews and statements she has made in the past, then I pity you. If you have read her statements and seen her interviews over the years and still say you dont see any of those traits in her, then you are simply in denial, and you dont wish to see or acknowledge the truth. So, either way I pity you for your ignorance or for your lack of objectivity. Then again perhaps you are a sociopath too? And so you completely identify with her? Methinks this may be the real problem and why you have such an issue with the things I wrote and why you find them so "cruel". Some things can really hurt when they hit too close to home. Doncha think?
Well now El Whateva, Wow you actually googled all of her interviews and statements from the past? Maybe your a sociopathic stalker. Oh and your one legged comment about her....did you ever hear of kharma? Methinks you should watch what you say it may come back to bite ya.
Pixie, your response is exactly what one would expect from a sociopath. The more you post the more you prove my point. Cheers!
Is that the only lame response you have? Cheers to you too!
Just glancing through some of the other topics I have seen pixie's other posts, and they all show signs of antisocial personality disorder. As I said before, the more you post pixie, the more you show the world that you are a sociopath. I advised you under another topic to get some help, and I suggest you take that advice as it will help you understand why you behave the way you do and say the things you say. You need psychotherapy, and from your other posts I know you have issues with therapists, but, perhaps you can put that all behind you for the sake of getting yourself well.
This woman is nuts! I just read where Heather Mills suggested we start drinking RATS MILK to save the environment! She is a psycho!
Molly, I saw that too and I know I cant be the only one. She said we should drink dog and rat milk! That is just crazy. She has truly gone off the deep end, and Paul was right to leave that crazy kook.
Good luck!
Crazy psycho gold digger!
Not many celebrities share a penney of their wealth? Are you kidding me? THEY ALL DO. Thats right. They all STEP IN FRONT OF THE CAMERA AND WRITE A CHECK. They also run their mouths about poverty, starvation, human rights, ect. Its just business. If you're a public figure, your people arrange for you to be involved with some 'humanitarian' effort. Its just that simple. Michael Vicks (dog fighting), Marc Anthony (tax evasion), Bernie Ebbers (Worldcom scam), Jeffery Skilling and Kenneth Lay (Enron), Martha Stewart (insider trading), Paris, Britney, Lindsey, ect. IT IS A SHAM. These people don't want to make the world a better place. They want to APPEAR AS IF THEY DO. IT MAKES THEM RICHER (think sponsors, endorsements, contracts, free air time, publicity, and IMAGE). Its all just business. Nothing but worthless tax deductable PR CRAP. WAKE UP CELEBRITY JUNKIES. NO HUMANITARIAN WOULD DELIBERATELY EXPAND THE GAP BETWEEN THE RICH AND POOR. EXTREME WEALTH MAKES WORLD PROSPERITY ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE.
This chick is wacked! What a skeezer!