great sex but not as often due to hot flashes

I don't have a desire for sex, since the complete hystorectomy.

I'm 53 having the best sex of my life. I'm comfortable with who I am. I know I look good for my age, feel sexy -- something I never felt in my earlier years. Yes menopause does cause a problem once in awhile but nothing that lubrication can't fix. So for all you woman who are 50+...put on your sexiest lingeries and strut your stuff.
BB

At 52 I still have a regular period and always was very sexual/multiply oergasmic w/ my ex--always thought I'd still be having the sex life most 25 year olds dream of because I'm still pretty and size 2--but when my fiance left me for a 30 year old my entire desire just disappeared. It's not related to him at all, I don't miss him --but I literally do not date anymore because I simply have zero desire. What is this about? Will my libido ever return?

if a third of people over 50 are having a problem, then 66% are not, not 75% as the article states. do the math.

if a third of people over 50 are having a problem, then 66% are not, not 75% as the article states. do the math.

I am a 53 year old woman who has stopped having periods. Three years ago I met a younger man. He is 45. We are very happy and the sex is always good. Sometimes I am more tired than he is, but he can always wake me up. I don't think just because you are over 50 that things should change. You have to work at relationships, including the sexual ones.

I'm 49 having a wonderful sexual relationship with a 50 yr old sexy masculine man who thinks I'm so sexy and beautiful (so he tells me) that in our intimate place together he really does make me feel sexy & beautiful. I'm a bit shy but love to laugh & have fun & when he gets me alone I'm totally secure and unihibited. Now I know what they mean about not older - just better. I've never been so fulfilled sexually & look forward to my man "taking me" in his arms and taking me places I only hoped I could go before. It's great having a lover and partner who wants to take you to the heights of ecstacy together - and I hope my libido never changes!!

I am a 57 yrs old woman that has not had sex for 3yrs. just not interested.

Age doesn't keep a person from having a good sex life. I am 70, my husband is 75 and we have sex anytime we feel like it. And that is usually 2 or 3 times weekly, and even more than 1 time on the same day

I'm 66 and my husband is 49. We have been together for 16 years and our sex life just gets better. Communication, experimentation, and no inhibitions are the key. He says he will never stray because he has all the "strange stuff" he can handle at home.

I'm a 54-year-old male, and my libido is dead. I wish it weren't. I can still get an erection, but I feel mostly numb, even during sex, and cannot maintain an erection for long without Levitra. Someone please let me know if there is any kind of drug that can restore that hot, tingling sensation I used to get!

Real, genuine desire and love with a desire to please her first should bring you back up to speed. No, it will not be the firey lust of 18 but it will be better and last longerrrrrrrrrrr

I'm 51 and married to a 40 yo woman who has 4to 6 to even 12 (yes, 12) orgasms in a session. I used to have to use Viagra etc. with my ex-, but since finding the love of my life no longer need it and the sex is wilder than ever before in my past. Body type, etc. is not that important if the love and enthusiasm is there.

Iceberg, have your Dr. check your testosterone levels. It worked for me. You might not get back to teenage levels but you'll feel better in a number of ways. Not just in the bedroom.

Iam 51 and had a 39 yr old boyfriend that took me to places that I thought never exsisted. We have since parted but now am dating a wonderful man and he makes me feel so wonderful he is 51 also and we have a wonderful sex life and I still am learning things we expirement often and he is also my best friend and we have relationship communication is the key. Yes we both know that we are not teens anymore but we both feel that the affectionate touch and just talking and is a big key to making this relationship work.

My girlfriend is 50 I am 41. We have sex every day, and each time is better than the last. No inhibitions in our bedroom or living room or dining room...

I am 53 and experiencing the best sex in my life ever. I have a partner (50) who is extremely amorous and sexual and we experience passion off the charts! I still have periods and not quite sure where I am in the menopausal stages but I hope I can continue with the desires and emotions that I currently have for a long long time.

I am 30, dating a 60-year-old man who is incredibly sexy and skilled in the bedroom. I was initially worried that sex with such an older man would be difficult or complicated, but it's the best I've ever had. I now have no desire to be with younger men, who have lots of passion but nothing like the longevity and performance of my current lover. He doesn't use viagra but still manages to keep me more than satisfied, sometimes 3 times in one day! I think that if older people are having difficulty with sex drive or performance, they shouldn't hesitate to use meds that help -- 50+ is still soooo sexy!!!!

I am 60 and never seem to get enogh of sex. I am totally gay and love giving oral and receiving it. Even after I climax, I still go looking for more. What gives here?

At 60, sexual interest was diminishing. At 62, it was gone, including strength and desire for intamacy. My wife, an RN, said something "aint" right. She had had a hysterectomy, no hormones but was still on fire. (I wanted to again, enjoy what had once been incredible, but how to make a dead tree sprout?) We (wife and I) headed for the Dr. (young enough to be my son) and poured out our feelings and the situation. No holding back or glossing over. After a few routine test including a testerone level test, my Dr. called me in to say "in his years of practice, he had never seen a testosterone level so low." First I tried a gell, it had no effect, next were shots, (little bee-sting in the rear end, no big deal).
It took several months to bring the testosterone up on the chart, but as it came up, my interest and desire also increased, "Old lonesome George" again began to stand on his own. Today I get poked every two weeks, and among other things, my wife gets poked several times each week. It's great again!

The secret is to fall in love

I AM 47 MY MAN IS 60 AND HE IS THE BEST LOVER IN THE WORLD. WE CAN GO FOR DAYS AND NIGHTS . HOWEVER I HAVE MULI ORGASMS. HE LOVES IT . AM I A FREAK ARE IS THE MAN THE PREFECT FIT . I HAVE NEVER KNOWN LOVE LIKE THIS

In my mid-fifties, I feel as though I've lived long enough to learn and know that the woman, my lover, is to be admired and savored. I wouldn't return to the reckless lust of eighteen even if I could.

My wife and I are both 58 and exercise to stay in shape for mind-bending sex. We frequently joke about naming our orgasms, and I'm always saying "it's all downhill from here". I'm thinking it's a combination of chemistry, like-mindedness, and a constant contest of giving to each other.

Use it or lose it!! Works amazingly well unless there is a med/psycho problem.

I am 65 hubby is 69 Had a complete hystorectomy at 50 Still having great sex. Sometimes a viagra comes into play but so what. We love the intimacy and each other
B Jones

I am 77 years young, and I am in great shape, physically, mentally, and sexually. My partner lives on the east coast and I live in California. It just happens to be that way, which is cool for both of us....we are both single at this stage of our lives.He is 15 years younger than I. We agreed to practice manogamy. I enjoy sex at least once a week when on my own, and as much as possible when we are together. I've always had a great libido. My last relationship lasted 15 years.....wsith 8,000 miles between us. Lots of frequent flyer miles earned and spent. Long distance relationships appears to be my Karmic fate.

Open your mind to new ideas...we highly recommend you visit the www.figging.com site and don't be afraid to try new things!

The ginger root is a true sexual enhancer, and you can find it in any produce section...lol we love it!

I am a 52 y/o male, who had a stroke 5 years ago (when I was 46 y/o). My libido has been very slow to return, and I do not use any drugs to help. My long term relationship ended soon after my stroke, and I have not had a lover since then. I feel I need another sexual relationship to get my life back, now that I have recovered from my stroke.

A big hello to "Singe, 52 & Alone"

If you try the Ginger Root...it's fantastic, just peel it into a capsule shape about an inch length and as big around as the tip of your little finger, insert as directed...and you'll feel intense desire...yes your Hotwing will respond!

I'm a 51 year old woman who is having the best sex of her life with my 41 year old boyfriend who I'm totally in love with! The love has much to do with the closeness and intimacy but the sex is so much better after 50!

I'm a 51 year old woman who is having the best sex of her life with my 41 year old boyfriend who I'm totally in love with! The love has much to do with the closeness and intimacy but the sex is so much better after 50!

I'm 54 my wife is 51 and we have joyous and exciting sex. Usually, every day, we do miss day now and then. Sex is great!

I am 25 I have been having GREAT sex with a 54 year old man for 4 years now. Pleasing me is the most important thing to him. He takes me places (sexually) that my 30 year old husdand can only dram off.

I am 73 and my partner is 27. I rock her world often and long. Yes, sometimes I need my little blue friend, but so what? She doesnt know any different and loves me for who I am, not what I can give her. She is the best sex I have ever had. I gotta tell you fellas, get you an Asian woman because they are the best. She loves me long time. I used to have a white wife, but, after she passed I found out what I was missing.

DAMN! 73 and 27?! DAMN...and what do you mean "get you an Asian"? We're not buying cigars here, dude.

Anyways, its cool that it gets better I guess? Surprising to say the least

I have noticed that 90% of the people responding are not married, but are in a relationship. I had a brief "encounter}, no sex, and I have to say the desire was excruciating! I would have loved to carry through, but "I am married".

In my mind, much of what she says is probably not true. Once a woman's hormones decline or ovaries are gone the drive is removed also. Even hormone replacement therapy doesn't really work. There is litle to no hope out there for women. The pharmaceutical company that comes up with something that REALLY works, I will buy a huge chunk of their stock.

My doctor (MD) has actually prescribed natural hormones for me in the form of a couple of creams--one internal, one external. It took almost a year (and lots of hormone tests) to find the right combination. My husband of 34-1/2 years was very patient and supportive through the process. He never pressured me, just happy with what he got when he got it,which wasn't much--maybe 6-7 times a year. Sex was very uncomfortable and even painful for me. Now, he gets that much in a week! (no bottled lubricants required!) I'm 52 and post-menopausal and he is 54 and still a very passionate man. Ask, or find, a doctor who will try the natural hormones. Then, put your money into University Compounding Pharmacy in San Diego. I don't live there. They mail my prescriptions to me, and my insurance covers it with a minimal co-pay.

For those of you who aren't married, you're missing out. Married sex is the best! The bond is stronger and the love is deeper. Remember, sex is only 10% physical. Why are you settling for so little?

For Mr. 73 and Ms. 27--are you kidding me? You are certainly kidding yourselves. Anna Nicole and Mr. Marshall comes to mind. Got money? That's what she really wants.

"Big Daddy Frank"--you are a pedophile and should be prosecuted and imprisoned. Oh, and just because a woman is capable of having great sex doesn't mean she's fertile. We went through fertility tests and 2 years of fertility drugs, artificial insemination, etc. and finally had 2 of the most beautiful children ever! They have grown up, married (yes, in that order--I'm so proud!), and have presented us with 3 precious grandchildren. They are also married to a couple of the finest men I have ever met--strong, moral, and devoted to the wives and children. Our oldest is a teacher working on her Ph.D and the younger one is an RN--solid women.

once ya go asian, you can't go caucasion... i'm 50 and found an asian woman one year younger than me... she is the best thing since sliced bread(not white bread... hehehe)...

I think it's disgusting for a dirty old man of 73 to sleep with a 27 year old woman. His recommendation about Asians is degrading to young Asain woman as the majority of any woman that age would not want or have natural desire for an ugly old man. He's delusional, maybe he found a stupid one, but the majority of young women would not want to miss out of the vitality of a young man their age... and that's just the facts.

I'm sick to death of articles like this that claim everything is wonderful as you age. Bull, I'm 50 on hormones and as soon as menopause hit my sex life was OVER. No drive, no sensations, no energy. I wish someone would have been honest and told me. "Oh yeah life goes on long after the trill of living is gone"

I think it's disgusting for a dirty old man of 73 to sleep with a 27 year old woman. His recommendation about Asians is degrading to young Asain woman as the majority of any woman that age would not want or have natural desire for an ugly old man. He's delusional, maybe he found a stupid one, but the majority of young women would not want to miss out of the vitality of a young man their age... and that's just the facts.

I'm 60 and sex was never better! I'm crazy 'bout my 54 year old

I'm single again at 65 and have problems
with ED. I am going to ask about a low
testerone level. Do they give testerone
in caps or injections?

I'm 53 and always eager to find someone looking for love, no matter what shape or size. But why is that so hard?

I'm 60 yo. My wife is 59. Sex just keeps getting better - 2-3times per week. Spend more and more time on foreplay. We are both taking DHEA 50 mg/day. Before my wife started taking the DHEA (OTC) her desire was minimal. DHEA is perfectly safe but its a good idea to check liver function test, testosterone, and DHEA-S levels.(I am a physician.) Women and men both respond well to testosterone creams and injections but these also need to be monitored under medical supervision. If your MD doesn't want to prescribe these meds, check in with an endocrinologist or another MD. Carpe Diem

I'm 60 yo. My wife is 59. Sex just keeps getting better - 2-3times per week. Spend more and more time on foreplay. We are both taking DHEA 50 mg/day. Before my wife started taking the DHEA (OTC) her desire was minimal. DHEA is perfectly safe but its a good idea to check liver function test, testosterone, and DHEA-S levels.(I am a physician.) Women and men both respond well to testosterone creams and injections but these also need to be monitored under medical supervision. If your MD doesn't want to prescribe these meds, check in with an endocrinologist or another MD. Carpe Diem

also testosterone cream is an excellent way to boost levels - pharmacists that can compound meds can make up a 1% cream that is very inexpensive and gives you a nice even level of testosterone - injections tend to give high levels initially and then drop off. Androgel is a new testosterone gel, works good but is very expensive

hysterctomy comment-
I lost all my sensations & desires for over a year. I have recently been sexualy stimulated and, orgasmic. I'm relieved..... I would suggest pampering yourself in hoping it resolves in time. You can always get some testosterone from your Dr. to get going. Why deprive yourself?

never get enough sex?
don't have kids...you need therapy

I'm 47, female, and I lost all interest in sex about 5 years ago. My soon to be ex is an alcoholic and his equipment doesn't work when he is drinking, which is all the time. I'm so tired of working 2 fulltime jobs, dealing with him drinking and not working, and his jaunts back and forth to rehab that I can't wait to get out of the house on Dec 31 and leave this man forever. Problem is, I don't think my interest in sex is ever going to return. I just don't see how it is going to happen. Has anybody else just permanently lost interest in sex before the age of 50?

I am gay but have pretty much always stuck to my own (black). But I met this beautiful Taiwanese lady 19 years younger than I and my sex life is nothing short of sensational. She knows just exactly where a and how to please and she tells me I know where her buttons are. Sex for me has never been better and the color difference only intensifies it.

Maybe the problem is desire, I thought I had ED but it wasn't me, it was my lack of desire to make love to my partner. If your mind doesn't want to pleasure your parner...Your libido most certainly will follow. So I simply changed partners, it did wonders for me. That may not be an option for most, But I have found you can love someone, yet they don't turn you on...it's all in the mind. Foreplay should not be 30 min of begging. Variety is the spice of life, Change things up you may be amazed, even if it is a young asian!

I have been with a man thirty years older for a few years now. Both of us have been married before and have decided against going that route again. I am thirty five.

I resent the "she's just in it for the money" comments. Older men can be very attentive, kind, and attractive. And a lot of them still have love to give and a libido when women their age are only interested in botox and knitting. I'm tired of being judged as a "gold-digger" for being with an older man--I pay my own way and we both make each other very happy and satisfied.

I say as long as both partners are consenting adults, it's all good. Women and men mature at different rates and need different things at different times in their lives.

The science will tell you that young females might "play around" with young males, but for stability an older, more established man is the one you want to raise a family with.

Help, I am 54 and was just told by my husband that I was an ice cube.

I was married to a man 10 years younger. Great sex - me 40's, him 30's. Divorced after ten years. Now with a man 10 years older. Oh lord, BORING, half limp, is this how I will spend the rest of my life?

I was married to a man 10 years younger. Great sex - me 40's, him 30's. Divorced after ten years. Now with a man 10 years older. Oh lord, BORING, half limp, is this how I will spend the rest of my life?

To SJ workhorse @ 47 -- being used or abused is the turn-off, it's not you. don't worry. it may take a while after he's become "ex" but it'll be back. trust me... it has to do with relationship. for that, the other one has to be actually alive & present. Don't take it personal!

So sad, depressed.. what to do if I have had no sex for over 2 years...)its embarassing huh?)i am 47...Asian..looking for 'unconditional love' and a LOYAL man.

Anne M: at 47 you are too old for me, even if you are Asian. But, that's just me, and doesnt mean that you are too old for everybody. You should try the senior citizens homes, lots of good men there and many are widowed and would love a companion your age.

My fiance and I are 50...we have phenomenal sex together...5, 6 and sometimes more times a week...we are hot for each other and are deeply in love...that is the key combination...to be in love with your partner and the sex automatically is awesome.

To "47 and Free 12/31 from alcoholic". I was in your situation but to stubborn to give up. DAH! He passed away and after greeving I decided that I liked being with someone but this time it would be with someone who didn't drink except on special occassions. Life and sex are wonderful, especially when they don't have alcohol breath.

I just turned 50 and my lover of 6 months is 52. This is the most passion I have ever felt with anyone. He says he feels the same way about me. For years after my hysterectomy I didn't want sex with my ex. Sometimes I think it is the person that you are with that determines your sexual appetite. Sometimes it is medical and people find out about it too late. Whatever the reason, you need to find out what the cause is and correct it. Sex after 50 is fantastic! I have more sexual energy now than I had as a young woman.

I'm 56 and my wife is 51, and she suffers from a very low sex drive. When I take her and she wants me it is very good, but she refuses to go to a therapist so I'm let very frustrated.

I'm 56 and my wife is 51, and she suffers from a very low sex drive. When I take her and she wants me it is very good, but she refuses to go to a therapist so I'm let very frustrated.

Lost my virginity at 53. Having and enjoying sex and wishing it had happened 30 years ago! I have had wonderful partners who have made me feel sexy and beautiful even though I'm not. Trying new things all the time. Hope this continues for MANY more years! Haven't started menopause yet...but can't imagine losing my libido!

I think the doctor missed two things. One was the math. The other was that this guy needed to go hire a Private Investigator. A wife who sends a man to another woman MUST be sleeping around and wants to cover her guilt.

I think the doctor missed two things. One was the math. The other was that this guy needed to go hire a Private Investigator. A wife who sends a man to another woman MUST be sleeping around and wants to cover her guilt.

I am 49 and have the libido of a 20 year old. My wife is 52 and is generally not interested in sex any more (about once per month). We need a change.

WE WERE MARYED AT ME 19, HER 18. WE HAVE TWO KIDS. IN 1976 SHE HAD THE BABY-CARRAGE TAKEN OUT, BUT LEFT ONE OVERY. THINGS WERE GREAT-TWO-GOOD, FOR THE FIRST 9 YEARS OR SO. SEX WAS 2-3 TIMES A WEEK, AFTER THE FIRST YEAR OR SO. THEN IT STARTED. AT FIRST IT WENT TO ONCE A WEEK, TO 1-2 TIMES A MOUNTH. AS TIME GO'S ON SEX BECAME SOMETHING I HAD TO BEG FOR. ( WELL IM JUST NOT IN THE MOOD FOR IT) OK, HOW ABOUT FRIDAY NIGHT? OK WE'LL PLAN ON IT. GUESS WHAT,,,,,,,,,,AINT GONA HAPPEN......! WELL, MABY NEXT WEEK SHE WILL BE IN THE MOOD. AT THAT TIME I CAME UP WITH THE PHARSE, IF YOU DROP THE BUCKET IN THE WELL 9 TIMES WITHOUT GETTING ANY WATER, WHY SHOULD I THINK IM GOING TO GET ANY SEX ON THE 10 TIME. BY NOW ITS IN THE MIDDLE 80'S AND SEX IS SOME THING I ONLY GET EVERY 2-3 MOUNTHS. SHE, JUST HAS ON WANT FOR IT, BUT THEN WHEN IT DOSE HAPPEN, ITS 1 TIME A WEEK FOR ABOUT 4 WEEKS. THEN AS SOON AS IT HAPPENED, IM CUT OFF AGAIN. OF CORSE I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE SEX 1-2-3 TIMES A WEEK I WOULD LOVE IT IF I GOT IT 1 TIME A WEEK. AND !

WELL IT'S NOW 2007 AND AFTER GOING 7-8 MO.IN BETWEEN SEX IT JUST STOPED. 2 1/2 YRS. AGO AFTER TRYING EVERY COUPLE NIGHTS FOR 1-2 MO. I JUST SHUT-DOWN....! I GUESS ITS TIME TO QUIT HURTING FROM HOPING FOR SEX AND TRY TO FORGET I WANT IT SO BAD. NOT EAZY TO DO. AT THE END OF THE SEX-LESS YEAR I CAME UP WITH A THOUGHT. EVERY TIME IM IN THE MOOD FOR SEX (1-4)TIMES A WEEK. I'LL TELL MY SELF THAT MY LOVING WIFE ( AND SHE IS) IS IN IROC FIGHTING FOR OUR "FREEDOM" AND I HAVE TO WAIT TILL SHE GETS HOME TO HAVE SEX! I JUST NEED TO PRETEND IM NOT TURNED ON, AND FIND SOMETHING TO DISTRACT MY MIND. WORKS VERY-WELL!!! OK,IT DOSENT. I GET RAGING MAD WHEN OTHER PEOPLE TALK ABOUT THEIR HAPPY SEX LIFE. I HATE IT WHEN GAYLE HAS A PIECE ON THE TODAY SHOW ABOUT SEX AND HOW GOOD IT GETS IN THE LATER YEARS. I COULD THROW THE LAMP AT THE TV, EVERY TIME I SEE SOMETHING ON HOW GREAT GAYLE SAYS SEX GETS AFTER 50. ONE TIME GAYLE SAID THAT IF A MARGAE HAS A GOOD SEX LIFE, THE MARAGE WELL BE GOOD TOO........! BUT IF ONE SPOUSE WANTS IT AND...

IM-BACK ! THE OTHER ONE DONT, THEN-SEX-IS-EVERYTHING..........! YOU BET IT IS. IM A GUY, HOW MANY TIMES DO WE THINK ABOUT SEX ? AND ITS NOT JUST THE ACK OF SEX. A LOT OF IT IS TO DO WITH THE TOGEATHER-NESS. THERE IS NO MORE LOVE IN THIS FAMILY. SURE WE LOVE EACH OTHER, BUT ITS LIKE 2 PEOPLE LIVING IN A HOUSE, BUT NO CONECTION TO ONE-AN-OTHER.I SEE OTHER COUPLES AND HAVE TO WONDER IF HES GETTING IT,OR HURTING LIKE ME.JUNE WILL BE 3 FULL YEARS AND IM NOT SURE IF I COULD DO IT ANY MORE.I'VE SUPRESS'ED MY FEELINGS FOR SO LONG NOW, IM ONLY FILLED WITH RAGE AND HURT&ANGER. I SEE WOMAN I KNOW I WOULD WANT, BUT WONT LET MY MIND GO THERE KNOWING THE HURT THAT FOLLOWS. IM A BASKET CASE BECOUSE I MISS HAVING SEX. WONDERING IF ANYBODY ELSE IS AS OFF AS I AM. YR RIGHT, THE ZING IS GONE. AND NOW I JUST LIVE EACH DAY WAITING FOR IT TO END. WITH OUT SEX, WHATS LIFE WORTH LIVING FOR. YOUR RIGHT GAYLE, WITH OUT IT-IT'S EVERYTHING. THEN-AGIN, SHES HAPPY NOT BEING PESTERED TO HAVE SEX ANYMORE.I AM A GOOD PRETENDER WILE SHES GONE OuT

I am 23 and laughing at the fact of old folks doing it

I am 73 and my wife of 45 years is 67. We moved south a few years ago. We have 4 children - one leaving near us - 8 grand children and 4 great grandchildren. We have a reasonable sex life - at least weekly -and enjoy both the sex and the companionship. I am in good physical shape but my wife has had some physical problems. And because of the meds I take I do usually use viagra. I realize that my libido has lowered, but that has simply fit my desire with our ability. Life and sex are still good.

The gentleman I'm with is 41 and I am 51. He rocks my world, I love him passionately and the sex if great. We have been together almost 10 years.

Although I have nearly called it quits 2 times before, I am still married to a man that for the last 10 years has not wanted me sexually. For the most part he let me believe he just did not want it. Then the last time I nearly left he said he has an erection problem. He as gone to the doctor and gotten the pills, which helped for a very short time. Now back to usual. Nothing for 4 months. I geuss I am just waiting until my daughter gets grown. She is sixteen. She really could not handle it last time, and he started getting weird, like she was his confidante or counselor or something. I can't put her through that. I am an attractive woman and have a good job and education. I don't know what is wrong with me that I seem to need someone to validate that I need to leave this relationship. I am encouraged that people my age are enjoying their relationships. I am tired of pretending to be dead.

I drink, and that has caused problems, but it started when I got cancer 5 years ago and got addicted to pain meds. My wife tried to kill herself 10 years ago, she wants to now. She has always been depressed, even with meds (15 years now), her brother commited suicide, her mother tried. My father was murdered and my mother may have been responsible (40 years ago), she was having an affair with a black man in the sixties, we are white (2 sisters, 1 retarded).

Man, I am screwed up! (other problems: I hear music in my head all the time, sometimes multiple songs at the same time, I "hear" certain lights, I have migraines that alter smell and tastes, I have visual artifacts that obscure my vision during migraines)

I hate most people (stoopidos), my IQ is around 150, I am atheist, I still like sex. I love my pets (suggies).

I'm 48 now, any suggestions? I want some peace.

This will disturb some, I am sorry.

I am a 54 year old woman and my boyfriend is 26. This is the best sex and the best relationship I have ever had. Life begins at 54!

I am 37, and already trough menopause (!). I feel tired and down...Thank you all for your comments. After reading them, I feel like doing whatever it takes not to be this way. I do not to give up!

today I am 50. My husband is 18 years older then me. We have been married almost 30 years. I am not in love with him anymore but his medical issues make him dependent on me (financially and emotionally). I do not want sex with him and he can't most times anyway, but he always wants to know when I am "in the mood". So, for those who have a relationship with good sex and compatability, congradulations and be proud of what you have.

I am a 57 year old male that has had the best sex of his life with a 57 year old woman. She is very passionate and exciting to be with. She does not have a perfect body but it does not matter. She gets excited way beyond the level of any younger girl I've ever been with. She is amazing. She makes me feel like the man I've always wanted to be. All I want to do is increase her level of pleasure. It a great feeling.

I am 35 and not married yet. I am afraid to get married because I am afraid that I will end up like my parents...who my literally have not had sex in 25 years. My mom rejected my dad and continues to do so. Then she got fat, and now my dad just gave up trying to be with her, because how can a man think that a fat naked woman is sexy.

Anyway, it sounds like most people that wrote in to this page are not married and dating people of different ages. I would like for more married people who have been married for years to someone of a similar age write in and tell me that there is hope in marriage. Thanks

To "hope in marriage", I've married twice. My ex's sex drive declined after we married. After 10 years of once-a-month sex and her refusal to see a marriage counselor or even read books on marriage, I divorced her. Now I am married again, and we had a good sex life for 3 years. But after having children, her desire left, and she says now she'd like sex a few times a year. She also has no desire to hug or kiss me. She also refuses counseling or reading books, but her solution is to let me have sex with her sometimes while she lies there passively, which is disturbing to me. This is a problem with some mothers due partly to being too busy and distracted, and maybe partly due to hormonal changes after kids.

I'm very sad. I expected marriage was a commitment to work together through any problems. But people change and may lose their commitment. I'd advise only people who strongly desire children to marry. Others may just have boyfriends/girlfriends (and no kids) so that you may leave when they change drastically.

I'm married almost 13 years and I love my wife very much. Sex used to be great then became a chore for her. The more I asked, the less she desired. I unfortunately had an affair which I ended after being busted by my wife. She forgave me and then we resumed the best sex ever-twice a day with multiple orgasms. Now a year later it's back to the dry spell. she is holding the upper hand this time because of the affair and I can't complain because I'm lucky to even being married still. We see sex differently, I see it like a necessity and she still sees it as a chore that must be done. We're both in our late 40's. I'm hoping that maybe she'll regain her libido if I just lay off her or am I fooling myself? Can couples really stay in sexless marriage? Are all women basically firgid after long term marriages and post menopuse? Most of the positive comments posted are from people in short term relationships. Should men accept this as part of life? Someone should of warned me. . . . .

is safe sex not having sex.or are you going to lose it if you dont use it.which is worst living with someone who never wants to have sex with you or having to go out and find some stranger to take care of your needs?

to homosapiens and Alone again: To me it is really scary...all I want to do is get married and have the best sex ever with my husband. I have struggled my whole adult life with having boyfriends and having sex with them outside of marriage...I have not wanted to do that, but have given in to them by not saying no to their advances and their pressures. What you said above makes me feel even worse about getting married...is that what I have to look forward to? Finally achieving my dream of being married and that God now approves if I have sex...but then hormonal changes come and I no longer have that desire?
I'm sure your wives mentioned above NEVER imagined that they would be in that situation when they married...as a woman, my question is is there any way to avoid these changes and lack of sex drive in the future???Do any of the drugs or hormone replacements help?? AND why don't these women see that paying too much attention to the children is ruining their marriage? How can I avoid ending up like them? help!

Also, why would God make something so beautiful as sex and then take a woman's desire away and have the men stuck there with no options but to cheat or leave their wives to get their sexual fulfillment??

Another question: I wonder if there is a relationship between obesity and lack of sex drive? Are these women overweight that are having the low sexual desire?

Thanks

to hope in marriage, you brought up a good point. My wife didn't choose this change in life. My libido is still higher than average and with time I guess it will decrease. The problem also lies with the insecurity that comes with the lack of intimacy. Marriage is a 50/50 gamble. We have peaks and valleys all the time. women with low self esteem do have lower sex drives. my wife is not obese, in fact she looks great (which makes it worse for rejection). I bet if you are aware of this phenomenon you would be more willing to try other options that both you and your future husband can work on together. Good luck to you.

maybe those of you without sex from your partner need to try to turn the other one back on? if you want change, stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself and do something. my husband and i dont have much sex either. but we both want to. we accept that everyday living hinders it, our health also. however, we know that it won't last and we will get back to more often. we have a mutual love and understanding. sex is only that small part. although just as necessary as breathing. when you make changes to better yourself your other will follow. do you guys like it when we nag? thats what youre doing when you beg. big turn off, try to find out why she is rejecting you? have you had your relax time from work and she is still doing things till bed time? there is no one answer for anyone. just dont give up on yourself because you cant change that other person unless they see you change and want to change too.

I'm 57 y/o Asian. Separated after 30 yrs of paltry sex. My new honey of 40 comes services me daily, sometimes more. When I think about what I sacrificed in the past all I can do is cry and blame others. The fact of the matter is I am to blame for not actively chasing my dream. Damn society, damn religion, damn consensus !! All U kids, listen to your soul, your inner voice and forgo materialism for spiritual contentment and satisfaction. I say, if you haven't loved "Passionately" then you haven't "Lived."
As for sex between large age differences, I say if they are old enough to drive a car, they are old enough to decide for themselves - keep Politics/Religion out of the bedroom.
As for sex with different ethnicity, I say it's all about who wants to please who.

am 54 had breast cancer,cemo,and radiation,am dry as a bone down there tryed every thing seen a dr.for the dryness he said its from lack of use.my poor husband is very patient and doesn't want to hurt me.vibrator works ok is just not the same.

Most of you guys are having great sex outside your real partner! It is great disaster and hellish. You can not have greater desire and real satisfaction away from your real partner bcos a part of you is been cheated. What shall it profit you then to gain the ten minutes enjoyment and be damned in eternal fire. You all must repent.

married 27 yrs. He has always had problems in our sex life. He had little interest, now he has NO interest. I love him very much. I am beginning to feel the love is gone, I feel he doesnt love me. I have emotional problems that have been caused by his "Neglect of my sexual feelings" seems I cant deal with the hurt, I have attempted sucide a couple of times in the past. I feel so alone in this world.
My son does not include me in his life, my husband does not include me in his life, and my sunday school class (all ladies) treat me like I am beneath them. I was married to my first husband for 4 yrs, he Physically and mentally abused me and kept me captive in our home, was extremely controlling, and basically I felt like I was fighting a war in my own home. Life for me seems to be a challenge, I seem to turn people away from me.
Anyone that thinks they could be of help please give your advise. Life is too short to live this way.
hurtfulinlove

"Sucied", well dont ever do that again ! Neaver should a person do it becouse of someone else that has drug you down to their level. The alone part. Yea, I know. The last time to have sex, and it neaver last for more that 4-5 weeks,( once a week,MABY) and then nothing for 6-8 mo. But after that, our daughter bitched mom out for the last time making her cry, becouse she came with me to show-town, to try and restart my music career. Daughter wanted mom to dump me and stay and help raise the 2 kids. One with Autisim. Son, has abanded us both, becouse im recording, and hes not a part of it any more. Son will call when he had a 12 pack in him, and tell me how great he is, at 1:30-3:00 in the morning. Then our 2nd daughter has stoped being close to us becouse, well, she dosent have time for us any more. No calls, no mothers day card, nothing, from any of them anymore. Oldest Daughter would call 3-4 mo. and make mom cry, and bitch at her and tell us how much she hates us for being down here. 2nd would call every..... !

couple of weeks, or us call them. But 2 1/2 yrs. ago, I would call every 2 weeks and neaver get anyone. She would call after 6 mos. and sound like we just talked last week. Son, we talked almost every day. 5 times a week for over an hour. Were best friends. But then I started my new music web-site, and recording new cd's and selling them, and nothing. Now he too will call about 6 mos and ack like we had just talked. I dont answer after 11:00 anymore. So, after 3 years of being rejected, a mom can get real-down. Evan if every thing else is fine. Then came the Weight-GAIN. Then wife puts me out of her life, for the most part. It was bad enought just not getting sex all these years. But the kids have pushed her away from me too. We "Still Love Each Other. But thats about it. Its funny what kids, or Other People Can Do To Your Mind.........! If I could fix my life, maby I could help you. BUT, I dont know where to start. So, your not alone. But you still have YOU. Im sure you too dont want to "Cheat" just to get sex.!

And at this point, I would like to just have my wife back like it was before 2003.Hell With the SEX, I have put those feelings under my shoes and in the dark. It hurts to bad thinking about wanting it. What we, and most long for is the closeness. That is far more important than the sex its self. No sex, and having a great partner is atleast "A LIFE" Looking at it, we ARE Traped in our own homes,alone. I bet were not alone too. Leaving, is not a choice. Im in this for the better-or-worse. After living my life on stage, its hard to keep a Happy-Face now. Evan if the sex was good before the kids hurt mom, it would be no-good now. Kids can drag you into the gutter, and not feel a thing. All 3 know moms hurting, and have no care, their to busy with their own lifes. Mom says its OK that she dosent get a mothers day card, but you can see it in her face at the end of that day. A 1/2 hr. call is better that a card, but nothing. I'ed like to see Gayle drill our 3 on her couch. But she better be carefull, the to girls are..

Red-Head's. And with mom and daughter on stage, we had to do the Judds. Maby if Gayle was to give you my e-address, we could talk back and forth. Just dumping my sole here has helped. You "Just Want to SCREEM" At Some Body. Or, at least talk to some one about it. Sharing our pain, helps make it not hurt so bad. At least you know there is some one out here that knows what your going threw. The world we live in is not very nice, and its harder when we have nobody at home. After trying to work things out, there just isn't any hope for a sex-less wife. The little there was, the kids took a way from me. So, I just live on the puter, and record music, and greatfull I have that much left in my life. "Chin-Up" we both have a place to stay. Hope yr safe. I would neaver hurt a child,pet,or a lady. I could hurt ANY-ONE Who dose. I thought about writing a book. Im Ashamed to say who I am. None of my fans would have a clue what its like behind closed doors. Sorry Gayle. I got long winded. At least you know I care............!

There are some sad comments on this page. I am 54 single and I would NEVER date anyone my age! Most of the men my age have ED and don't seek help. A lot of you men put no pasion into "making love" yes there is a difference! I am the type of woman who enjoys getting to know a person first. Stroke my brain first! Secondly let's face the facts, a lot of you men have no "skill". You have been doing the same position for so long you don't bring anything new to the bed. The men I prefer to date range anywhere between 35 to 48. That's it. I love adventure and fun. Those of you who have wives with low sex drives, spice it up with toys, movies and lots of foreplay! Try using your tongue more often, it helps!

I am a 57 year old woman and after my divorce, did not have sex for approx 5 years. I met a man that is 43 yrs old and could have sex every night. I just love it. He has made me feel alive again. We do all sorts of things to make each other feel good.

I'm living with a man that would rather play with himself each morning than play with me. Once a week is all I get.

I read some of these posts and it just creeps me out. I could never bring myself to have sex with any woman older than me. That is just sick and disgusting. I always find me a younger woman because they arent so selfish, and not to mention wrinkled and gross with vaginal dryness...I never have to break out the astroglide with a woman under 40!

Response to sorry but it's true
If there is chemistry between two people age, wrinkles etc won't gross you out.
I hope the shell of your woman under 40 ages well because life is like a box of chocolates

I also would never degrade myself by having sex with some old hag. That's just gross!

2nd Response to sorry but it's true....! Well buddy. If I was you( And Im Glad Im Not) You better start "Banging Them Under-40's Like a Rabbit". In just a couple of years from now, yr the one thats is just sick and disgusting,and selfish, and not to mention wrinkled and gross with a bald head, and ED. You supper-studs seem to think all you do is climb on and ride-em, squirt and hop off. Most guys "Screw", now women "Make Love", and I found that out when I was 18. From the first peck to the big bang. My tounge dose almost all the work, and All Over. Just the last 15 % do I climb on, "And Hold On", becouse it's better than a free-pass, to the Fair. So, you better start Banging Them Youn Ones, becouse very soon Partner, Your going to be the one that creeps the Woman out. No fancy car, or a winer with a tooth-pick taped to it will get ya a thing. You have turned 80% off All Women off just by reading yr coment. Hurry, the Dumb-ones, are learning quick, by guys like you. thAre, I feel better already..................!

to: sorry, but it's true; I like sex with men who would make love to women of any age. My experience is extensive and those that are fantastic lovers are capable of not just turning on someone as attractive as I am, but a woman of any size, shape or age. To be great in the sack, you have to really dig all women.

I'm no rocket scientist, but the first paragraph doesn't "add up." If 1/3 of people over 50 are reporting sexual problems, that would mean that 2/3 or 66.67% are not. Please get your facts straight. How is anyone to believe anything in this entire article if you can't even add.

Sorry if I offended some of you with my post, but all I was doing was expressing personal preference. I am sure you wont like this either, but I also dont like fatties, uggies, or uppity women. She also better be tight, or I will leave her fast.

k... just a note, if a third complain about a problem, then there isn't 75% left over who don't. Check the math. *s*

To sorry,you will be sorry in a few years time and you will be eating what you have commented here...You are so proud haughty and very concieted ..hopefully young women will read your comments and be turned off by your kind of person..

To Mr 73,congratulations for having an Asian for your partner...Don't think that most Asian women will go for a man of your age.Please dont treat women as if we are a commodity to sold ,to be rocked..give respect to women ..I am an Asian but i don't go banging left and right just for the money of it,,,I better work myself to death then being rock by a man like you and sorry who thinks hags ,non tight pussies ,uglies are no no for him..give women respect ,you came from your Mother ,remember?

We married when I was 24 and my wife was 20. We had great sex until she turned forty. She had a historectomy and has lost interest in sex. Now she is in her menopause and still uninterested in sex. We have sex about once a month. I am 54 and more horny than ever.

Hats off to your comment to that 73 year old, about Asian women ! Mara, you are absolutely correct and what you said to that man. . . He's a ahole, sorry !!! I would love to meet a woman like you, and I would respect and honor our relationship always! Women are first in my life! I am 57 years old and live with a companion that is from hell, I just wish I had true love with a wonderful woman...

FOREVER-HOPE-LESS...I'm sorry but if you talk & act the way you spell its no wonder you aren't getting any. Whats wrong with you people? Did you ever think your not having sex with your partner because the love & attraction are gone? Its over. Get on with your life and stop your begging. For those of you who stay in a relationship due to children, I say your getting exactly what you deserve, which is Nothing. Do you really think kids don't know what is going on? Get real. Divorce isn't sweet but the children do survive if handled the right way.

I am a 50 yr old female who just ended a long relationship with a married man. Spare me your comments. I didn't say it was right. Sex was great in the beginning, he was horny all the time (to horny). After a while I started thinking theres something wrong with this guy. I say Hi & he gets an erection. That would be a great compliment if he wasn't a drunk. It got to the point that he started to buy toys for fun & then he started enjoying his own hand more than he did touching me or me touching him. He would rather watch me masterbate then have foreplay or try to satisfy me himself like he used to. The lil' toy would do that. Its not very attractive trying to have sex with a man who can't hold his head up during oral sex. So I say enjoy your toy & your hand pal. No wonder your out cheating on your wife, she doesn't want you either. Shes there for the roof over the kids head & the money in the bank.

I'm thin, I'm attractive, I'm fun to be with blah blah & I am alone. The problem is, I hate the way I look. Low self esteem isn't the word for it. Gravity has hit the old boobs as it does to every woman, the butt hangs a bit, a little hanging belly (thanks to surgery). I hate the way I look, (this isn't how I looked 10 yrs ago, what the hell happened?) so at 50 I will continue to be alone due to my stupid hang ups. They say you have to love yourself before some else can love you. Yeah, maybe after I get money for plastic surgery. Sad, really sad.

I'm 48 and have dated women in their 50's for the past 15 years. They are horny, know what they want, and are pleased to have a man who cares enough about their sexuality, as he can please them first before he gets his rocks off.