I was VERY VERY disappointed that for such an IMPORTANT topic, the TODAY show anchor practically sprinted throughthe topic. It was silly the way she behaved so embarrassed, as if one cannot be adult in discussing female orgasms. I thought I'd get some real help but the 3 minute discussion was managed to last less time than the average sex session! Amazing

I feel that I have several different 'levels' of orgasms, depending on the stimulus used. Nothing can compare to my vibrator, but it doesn't kiss my neck & tell me I smell good like my boyfriend does.
As to Hoda's behavior: For generations we in America have been raised to feel that discussing these things in public is a social no-no. (We still can't say labia on TV) Sometimes that upbringing is difficult to overcome. I think considering how uncomfortable she was, she did a decent job.

I am so thankful that my daughter wasn't in the room at the time of this discussion. Let's keep these topics off the air and focus on the more news-worthy.

I'm glad we talk about such things more. How else will we get over the embarrassment so that we can get what we want. Women have been made to feel they must suffer in silence for way too long, just so they don't break the streotype that "good" girls don't concern themselves with sex.

I agree with L.R. wholeheartedly. Vibrators are great, but just does the job with nothing more. I compare it to drinking a nutritional shake. Sure it will give you the nutrients you need in the easiest form, but wouldn't you rather have a gourmet dinner? What leaves you more fulfilled? I would rather have sex without the orgasm just to have pleasure of touch and connection.

As for shocked, um, does your t.v only get one channel or does it not have an off button??? If you fail to utilize these options to "protect" your daughter you are the irresponsible one.

mother of 4. 25,24,23,20. Was I busy. Now it is my turn to have FUN. 52,POST MENAPAUSEAL. YEAH. You dont need a man........

mother of 4. 25,24,23,20. Was I busy. Now it is my turn to have FUN. 52,POST MENAPAUSEAL. YEAH. You dont need a man........

Why can't women just ignore the obviously male-created "good girls don't" rule? It was obvious to me that it was created for the same reasons as foot-binding, FGM, neck-ring placing, etc, which is to keep women from being sexually automous. That's threatening to men in almost every society icluding ours. Too bad for them, I've always thought. And I've never had a problem, ever. That 20% of women, (and I'm one), mostly just have guys who care enough to know how or are free enough to show them how. How is it men in America don't know how to pleasure a woman, but the uneducated tribes in Africa know just what to do to separate a woman from pleasure? Think about it.

There had to be a better time of the day for discussing the "big O".

Think NBC Didn't THINK. Just didn't belong on the FAMILY TODAY SHOW.

This is my opinion and think this was some sort of a SHOCK Factor and I, for one, are pretty discusted with NBC.

I never thought of the Today Show as a family show, some of the programing is and some of it isn't.
We have to use the Mute or the Off button on the TV to control what we see and hear.
I do think all media has focused too much on the sexual importance of a relationship. It is important, but it certaninly is not all there is. A relationship MUST have balance. If not there will be serious problems. We need to be with someone that we can talk to, that we can be alone and quiet with, someone we can trust. At some time in our life, the sex will go, briefly or maybe forever, if we don't have anything else with our partner; when we desperately need a loving hand,a shoulder to lean on, it will not be there.

my husband likes to have what i call aggressive sex where there is alot of pounding going on and i am more of the intimate and slow loving type, my ex use to love me the way i liked and my husband is wonderful but i cant get the loving i need, he thinks he is a porn star what should i do?????????/

Take it from a guy, anything your husband does is what he believes you need him do. To resent his not being able to sense what your body needs makes about as much sense as your giving him some brushes and cans of paint and telling him to make you happy, use your favorite colors, show enthusiasm but don't do a rush job either; and whilst he's at it, play that song your first husband used to play that first time he got you into bed. The problem is your tastes have been set by the past, for much the same reason that you'll probably never cook a meal he enjoys as much as his mother's cooking, even though he'll probably never tell you. Love is patient. So try gentle hints spread out over time given not as corrections but as new things to try. As a young man, a lady friend lent me a tape showing a woman pleasuring herself alone in bed. My reaction was ohmigosh! She's so gentle with herself, for such a long time! I realised then I was doing it all wrong. Thanks Sheri! You earned me a lot of encores through the years.

i think sharing secrets is good for all of us

I was in the waiting room at my dentist's office one afternoon and Oprah was on and they were discussing sex and really getting into detail, pretty graphic. I am not offended but this stuff by any means but there was a mom there and her 8 and 9 year old kids were sitting there watching the show absorbing everything they were saying...I felt it was inappropriate and awkward. But it's kind of hard to turn off the TV in a waiting room when 10 other people were watching and really into it though lol

I think alot of men think that faster and harder is what makes us women feel good. That is not true in most cases and I wish that these guys would wake up and smell the coffee. Slow and gentle is always the key...also men please take the time to go down on a woman and stay down there for at least 10 or 15 minutes, not just go down for 10 seconds lick a couple of times and then on to intercourse. I have had encounters with men who thought it was all about them, did not even bother to go down at all...what losers! No wonder there are so many unsatisfied women out there if there are alot of guys like this!

Those idiots trying to restrict what is televised might as well go back to burning books. If you are a parent it is YOUR responsibility to restrict what you let your children see and hear! Start being RESPONSIBLE!

I don't understand why your daughter has to be "protected" from learning how to have an orgasm. Why would this be a bad thing for her to learn? Of course, if she's young, she's may not understand anyway, but if she's older, she ought to know. Just because she knows how to have an orgasm doesn't mean that she's going to go out and do it right away.

IT seems to me the parent WAS being responsible for not wanting her children to be subjected to this at their ages. For it to be forced upon them on public tv is the IRRESPONSIBLE thing. Sex is phenominal....and for those who need education, I think it is wise...but it shouldn't be on family programming or news shows for children of all ages to see.

The Today Show provides programming for a wide variety of audiences. For the mother to single gals out there. It is the parent's responsibility to decide what is appropriate for their children. The news should not be censored and cannot please everyone. Better solution yet...no TV for your children!

I'm with A. Lewis, I was so dissapointed in Hoda. She was "exhibit A" in what's wrong with sex in America, obviously uncomfortable with talking about sex. Surely we can use correct anatomical terms without being offensive. It's anatomy; we talk about every other bodily function in elaborate detail on t.v. these days, but can't call a clitoris a clitoris, and call orgasm "it." To say she's a product of upbringing is a cop out. We ALL know better. This attitude is why 60- 70% of parents don't talk to their kids about sex, EVER, and we have huge rates of STDs. It was news, and an interview, and something relevant to most people's lives. I surely hope she got a talking to, it was absolutely ridiculous.

As Bill Cosby says, there are many unsupervised kids who are watching whatever they want without a parent there to monitor. If you think that just saying that it's the parents' responsibility to monitor what the child sees and hears via media you're naive at best, but more likely disingenuous. It takes a village to raise a child. Being in our homes 24/7, the media is a big part of the village. It needs to be more responsible about the time and nature of its programming.

You people are ridiculous. There is no reason why news people should not be "allowed" to talk about the difficulties of female orgasms during the daytime. The only kids who should be home at this time are too young to understand what is being said. The handful that are "home-sick" that happen to watch will not turn into prostitutes because of watching the program. You people claim to be "conservative" then go to RonPaul2008.com and learn what a true conservative is all about.

to 'not shocked'. showing a young child a show about sex is not a good thing. when i was a young girl my mom let me in the room watching soaps with people in and out of bed with whoever and without marriage. it made me grow up to think that is right and i had to learn myself about real love. i have no protest of discussing such things on tv. i think really young children shouldnt even be watching the news at all. it is very scary sometimes even for adults. i do however feel that alot of shows they make out to be 'family' shows start out that way and suddenly some sexual content is shown and all too late to get the kids out of the room for it is so sudden. i do believe though that things are best read in books and not broadcasts on tv midmorning. and..i am no prude...just a concerned mother.

Growing up on an island in the Pacific Ocean is no different from the upbringing of a person living in New York City when it comes to the pleasure of having sex at anytime of the day. Here, though, we, especially the younger boys were exposed to the art of making love in the men's house at the early age in life. we used to have a "mispil" comfort woman who sits, lives, and spends her younger years at the men's house for the purpose of to please the men who live at the men's house. The older men teach the younger boys about making love, the most sensitive part of a female body, and the art of making love to a lady. The art of making love not only comes at the men's house, but it also comes from a house where women stay during their monthly periods. An old lady teaches the younger girls all about love making techniques and how to please their partners (men). I know it is a subject that is a taboo to talk about in the family or elsewhere in public, but we learn at early stages of life while growing.

Growing up on an island in the Pacific Ocean is no different from the upbringing of a person living in New York City when it comes to the pleasure of having sex at anytime of the day. Here, though, we, especially the younger boys were exposed to the art of making love in the men's house at the early age in life. we used to have a "mispil" comfort woman who sits, lives, and spends her younger years at the men's house for the purpose of to please the men who live at the men's house. The older men teach the younger boys about making love, the most sensitive part of a female body, and the art of making love to a lady. The art of making love not only comes at the men's house, but it also comes from a house where women stay during their monthly periods. An old lady teaches the younger girls all about love making techniques and how to please their partners (men). I know it is a subject that is a taboo to talk about in the family or elsewhere in public, but we learn at early stages in life while growing up.

I agree with drmike. "The only kids who should be home at this time are too young to understand what is being said. The handful that are "home-sick" that happen to watch will not turn into prostitutes because of watching the program."

Also, what kids actually watch the Today Show for fun? Young children want cartoons, and teens are watching whatever they want when adults aren't around anyway, so where's the harm?

The V-chip HAS been invented, people. It's about time ADULTS stop blaming the media, violent video games, etc, for corruption in children. You are the most important filter. You cannot expect a tv station to raise your children.

I am sure glad my kids didnt hear this! come on people You dont think your kids hear worse at school. If you dont think they do you are blind! Kids at the age of 7 or 8 and up are talking about boys and girls and who I like and so in so likes so in so. Wake up people. If you teach you child right you should not have to worry about what they hear on TV. The more you hide it from them now the more they are trully gonna want it at a age soon to come. So insted of worrying about what they said about orgasms on TV take them to school where they should be when this show comes on. I have never hidden peoples words or tv from my daughter. Of course I dont let her sit down and watch a R rated movie. But I do let her hear how other people talk and she has learned that because some people have dirty mouths mom and dad don't so why should I. So to the people that think this is wrong being on TV may be you need to find a man that can help you Climax. It could change your world.

I am sure glad my kids didnt hear this! come on people You dont think your kids hear worse at school. If you dont think they do you are blind! Kids at the age of 7 or 8 and up are talking about boys and girls and who I like and so in so likes so in so. Wake up people. If you teach you child right you should not have to worry about what they hear on TV. The more you hide it from them now the more they are trully gonna want it at a age soon to come. So insted of worrying about what they said about orgasms on TV take them to school where they should be when this show comes on. I have never hidden peoples words or tv from my daughter. Of course I dont let her sit down and watch a R rated movie. But I do let her hear how other people talk and she has learned that because some people have dirty mouths mom and dad don't so why should I. So to the people that think this is wrong being on TV may be you need to find a man that can help you Climax. It could change your world.

Not that it's relevant to the article, but why is kids hearing real info about sex on TV so bad? Really, it's just another bodily function except it's the one smothered in shame by the purityrannical residue left over from the repressed fundies that brought that repression here so long ago. And besides, those same young kids could probably teach mom and dad a thing or two, thanks to the internet! Bwahahahaha

Women can have orgasms too?

People who think kids shouldn't hear about sex are the ones who often end up shocked, yes SHOCKED when their pretty young teenage daughter gets knocked up. Why? Maybe it's because she didn't know anything about sex! And when pressed, no one has a good reason for witholding that information beyond their own unexamined guilt-based hang-ups (what they do instead is talk about HOW sex is portrayed in a negative or harmful way, i.e. soap opera sleeparounds, but that is an entirely different issue and frankly a good reason FOR teaching the facts to young kids as an antidote to Hollywood nonsense). America is the most over-sexed yet under-laid country in history, I think. All this titillation but so few orgasms, how utterly sad. Go get you some!

"Women can have orgasms too?"

I hope that person was joking. If not, then I hope they're very young.

I do agree people need to stop the oh my god, what was just on tv? No matter who you are it is up to you to raise your children correctly. unless your child is home schooled I am quite sure they hear much worse on the play ground at school.We as parents need to grow up our selves.Maybe if we are comfortable with sex in our own lives we can learn how to talk to our children about the issue.

wow, some heated comments and all NBC had to do was talk about sex, baby. lets take our minds out of the gutter for a second and remember women and orgasams just got to know each other in the last century or so. The more we educate ourselves the richer our lives will become. Stinks that some people are still stuck in the dark ages. wahwah my kids, exactly how about we give them a fair chance to be NORMAL adolecents, they will do their own exploring and maybe share some facts with you, then what??

Bravo to NBC for a good discussion. It's time for body awareness, and a good frank discussion is certainly better than whispers and pornography. We need to hold our heads up and accept our sexuality instead of being in denial. That's one reason orgasm is so hard for some women to begin with.

you shocked people are acting like the today show talks about sex every single day. get over it and stop being so prudish. there is nothing wrong with talking about orgasms. i think it would be irresponsible of the media to bury their heads in the sand and not deal with the realities of life. use the remote or the mute button. or better yet, use the awkward moments as an opportunity to TALK to and EDUCATE your kids about the stuff they may encounter on tv, at school and wherever else they go. yeah, it takes a village to raise a kid, but parents still have the primary responsibility.

The best orgasms for me are waking up to one during the night. They are so intense...

I disagree with the whole twenty minute thing. My man can bring me to orgasm in about 5 minutes. AND..he can make me have multiple orgasms. That is because neither of us are embarrassed about our bodies and sex. And we love to experiment!! If every woman was more open to sex with their partners the way we are, I think you would see a decline in men cheating on their wives.

-S..."uneducated tribes in Africa" know how to please a woman? So what you seem to find pleasurable is female circumsision and mutilation?

How I wished we were open-minded about sex when I was a kid in private school. We were told sex and everything about sex was a sin! Masturbation was harmful, petting would send you to hell and intercourse would prove you were a bad person. Now I realize that these sexually repressed nuns and priests caused more harm in kid's minds than anything else these kids experienced while growing up. Is it any wonder why we have sex crimes caused by a lack of respect for the opposite sex. What a shame!!

It took a loving relationship with a few women (actually more than a few) to help me appreciate sexual highlights. Now I have a healthy view on sex and am glad to see a healthy view on TV. Our kids were raised correctly and have a healthy relationship with sex partners. The conventional wisdom is that sex is good. We kept religion out of their lives until they were old enough to choose what they wanted to follow - IF at all.

I hope more sexual topics are discussed on public airwaves. Turn the TV off if you object.

Funny how episodes on tv about sex get so much comment, but nothing about killings, war, murder...

Why is it shocking for kids to hear about sex but not shocking for them to hear about murder or wars?

Reason? We have screwed up, puritanical views when sex on tv is wrong but killings are ok.

I fail to see how talking 'factually' about sex remotely compares to what young people can view on most any popular TV show nowadays. Parents can't control everything their children view, hear, and experience in today's culture that seems to promotes sexuality everywhere you turn. There is NO easy answer, and we're all entited to our opinions. My opinion? Parents should TALK about sex and relationships with their children. Ask children what they think about specific topics! Keyword: ASK! By listening to their views, you'll have opportunity to experience a real discussion- not another lecture. Don't leave it up to magazines, TV/Movies, the Internet, and school gossip to teach children about healthy relationships. And healthy relationships (at an appropriate age) include sex... The more we know about our own bodies, the better. Being a woman today and having so many sources of information available is wonderful!

I was just having this conversation with my partner. I love women, I learn every nook and cranny of almost every partner I have been with. I have had over a hundred partners and most of them I have pleased successfully. I am 40, an educated, trustworthy person, when I have committed, it is a 100% monogamous. I can almost always give my partner an orgasm, at least after she is comfortable with me. However, in almost every case, my partners that are actively utilizing vibrators have a much harder time achieving an orgasm (regardless of intercourse, oral stimulation, I have a lot of methods). I believe women become dependent on this artificial stimulant and lets face it, we can't reproduce that form of intense stimulation. I know there are exceptions and I can see the attacks on my character and opinion coming a mile away. I know who I am and since I have realized this, I have been completely honest with just about all of my partners as to who I am and I sleep just fine at night.

MR. MR, you're right about vibrators tending to diminish response to lesser stimulation. It's like living in the tropics and then visiting a temperate climate; even though it may still be quite warm, it ain't gonna feel as hot as the tropics! Of course, sometimes it's nice to take a vacation someplace warmer ;) It sure took me a lot more work to handle a vibro-addict, whereas my last gf who'd never used one would routinely reach 3 or 4 big "O's" and her record was 8.
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About those African tribes: The ones still performing those mutilations are in the minority these days, and much progress is being made to stop the practice. Both the original comment about that and the reply were borderline-racist stereotyping, by the way...

Um, the "uneducated tribes" comment was about how they were proficient at SEPARATING women from pleasure (i.e. circumcision). Read closer.

v-chip. so shut up, you stupid bitch

the tv isn't raising your child, you are

be a parent, so i dont have to get cable just to watch something thats rated above pre-school level

im sick of all this god damnned P.C./censorship crap.

be an adult, turn it off

Wow... you people make me laugh... I'm not even going to try

I thank GOD everyday for my husband. Even though he is 17 yrs older, he was more than willing to learn.I was able to change a lot of his pre-conceived ideas of what women want or need. I have been in touch with what my body responds to for quit awhile.It helped teaching him easy. We now have been married 12 years and our sex lives are better every day.Even if your not able to obtain orgasm doesn't mean it's to late. By reading, watching videos, or talking with friends it is never too late to learn. Think of all the fun things to try with your spouse. He probably will think you've hit your peak when you show him what you like and really get into it. I know my husband is thrilled when I have orgasms. All of this is possible because my mother was up front with me and gave me books to read. Not your everyday pruberty books. But books by Xavier. The books that tell the truth about our bodies and how they work. Without this knowledge women really have no clue as to how things work for them. Good Luck

a big penis helps alot my husband is 10 inches

Amazing to read these comments and realize that we still live in a place and a day when there is so much ignorance. This is what we get after 40 years of "sex education"? The size of a mans penis helps? We don't want to talk about sex in front of children? HELLO, are you aware of the statistics surrounding kids having sex? Are you aware how ignorant they are? Are you aware of the statistics dealing with the percentage of girls that are being abused by older male family members? Are you paying attention to the teenage pregnancy rates? Absolutely ridiculous and shameful that in this day and age there is as much ignorance as these comments display. My wife and I took a class in human sexuality over 30 years ago at the University of Washington and we knew the foolishness of this stuff then... Oh, for the record. I am a relatively conservative christian man who believes that there is nothing shameful about education and knowing the truth. We taught our children early not to be ashamded and embarassed about sex.

yes a big penis gets me off

Too bad the Boy Scouts don't have a merit badge for learning how to make love to a woman. I mean, really, there is no education on this matter. Very few boys have been lucky enough to have had a mentor on this subject and have to try to figure it out on their own. This is too important to a successful relationship to be neglected as it is.

P.S., as to the size of a man's penis, there is nothing a man can do to change the size he was born with. However, there are exercises that a woman can do to make her half of the equation smaller.

Sure most men are not hung like a horse, but there are excersizes that increase the muscular control and muscle development for both men and women. The reality however is that the MIND plays the most significant role in sex than does the body for both men and women. I dont know about women (other than my wife of 6 years) but sex is better in monogamous committed relationships because the issue of comparison is not there to destroy the mind. THIS is a significant reason to practice abstinence.

Thank goodness, finally someone tells the truth. What we call regular intercourse does NOT work. Thank goodness or vibrators, I finally told my husband.

Good site! Good resources here, All the best!

I agree with the more conservative view being represented here. Sex is icky and you SHOULD feel bad that it was discussed on an adult morning talk show. Far be it from me to find a need to be open about our sexuality, even though our sexuality is a gift from God. We should be more uptight, and more in the dark. We should keep our children away from educated discussions about sex because we, as adults and parents, shouldn't have to look them in the eye and then explain anything to them. I mean, this is why we have teen smash hit films that cover all this coming of age business. Those movies are seen without our eyes and our knowledge and I'm sure they represent sex 100% correctly at all times. Also, we as parents don't have a degree in sexual education. We just happened to do it, but not anymore because we have to be so conservative. Let the schools educate our children because THEY must know how to do it the best way. Anything to keep the questions away from us.
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Dumb.

I mean, come on...really? Don't talk about sex and masturbation and orgasms and how to figure your body out?

Let's face the facts. If you have a son that is a teenager, he masturbates. If you have a daughter in high school or college, she masturbates or has at least tried it.

This is obviously directed towards those who take the more conservative stance on here.

People, wake up and smell the coffee...kids are having sexual encounters at younger ages now a days and we, as parents need to be open about sexuality and talk to them. That includes all of the topics.

When I hear about 12 years olds getting caught doing oral at school, I'm let down...society is let down...by the fact that those kids parents (or guardians) didn't speak to them about what sex and sexual acts are.

We leave our children to act upon their desires like animals act upon their instincts. It's programmed into our heads from a young age that we are to go out and do it, and do it often.

Talking about it is the only.

don't you think you should cover your legs? obviously you don't get it. you want to be a BABE INSTEAD OF A BRAIN....You are of no help to families.

I think it is important for ladies to be open about these things! It seems like forever the secrets of the the female body have remained just that, SECRETS. For example, I have an explosive orgasm every time I move my bowels and I'll bet I'm not alone. This became a real problem for me when I became a mother. Every time my son had a full diaper, the aroma would make me wet.

Good discussion - but nowhere any mention of the role of hormones. If they are low (or even absent!) there no fuel for sexual arousal and response (or even thoughts). Even more important,the woman can feel depressed, exhausted, have no memory or self esteem, and a simple daily dose - of safe estradiol - can bring it all back. Even testosterone can be lacking for some causing female "impotence" - without sufficient testosterone, the essential increased blood flow and nerve function to the genitals is impossible. Blood tests can provide the diagnosis directly. Estradiol (not the other estrogen forms) in sufficiently large amounts can jumpstart the whole complex hormonal system and be reduced when blood tests show all back to normal levels.

My kids and I talked about sex when they were each around 6 to 8 years old. They were told what sex is, how it's done and why it's done. They were also told not to allow anyone to touch them and when and how to tell someone if that is happening. As they got older, I would remind them about risks and discuss sex even though I figured they'd probably not tell me when they had sex, at least for a while anyway. They have both thanked me several times for taking the time to make sex a 'normal' topic and a respectful communication, so that they could see sex as a positive and not so dirty and disgusting like my parents did from the 50's. Sex is beautiful and it's a gift from God and should be discussed that way.

to mj posted on november 08, 2:32pm

"-S..."uneducated tribes in Africa" know how to please a woman? So what you seem to find pleasurable is female circumsision and mutilation?

Posted by mj on November 08 at 02:32pm"

that is NOT what was said at all!! the post acutally read:

"uneducated tribes in Africa know just what to do to SEPARATE a woman from pleasure"

get your facts straight before you finger-point!!!

AHAHAHAHAH!!!!

"Too bad the Boy Scouts don't have a merit badge for learning how to make love to a woman."

fenderman, you are too funny! it's true though.

Thank you Stacy In Dallas....I was wondering when was the best time to talk to my children who are 10 and 8. I have a son and a daughter. You have given me the encouragement to do it now before its too late.

Richard said: "don't you think you should cover your legs? obviously you don't get it. you want to be a BABE INSTEAD OF A BRAIN....You are of no help to families"
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Um, Richard (can I call you Dick?), a woman is not forced to choose between being intellilgent, educated, or professional and being attractive. At least not anymore, except in the eyes of cultural relics such as yourself. Men sought that women's bodies should be covered because of their own shortcomings in terms of mental discipline. A man being distracted by a skirt doesn't mean SHE is morally/socially inferior; it just means HE is a simpleton.

I adore brilliant, beautiful, independent, and strong women, like my last gf who could look like Jessica Simpson if she wanted (and she did sometimes!) but by day ran a Clinical and Developmental Immunology lab for breast cancer research at a major university. If women like that spend time with me (and they certainly don't have to!), then I can asume I'm not being a Richard, and that's just how I like it.

Hi!I'm well-mannered & polite person but if I've ever had an intimacy like foreplay,I'd rather say I've never done it before to my current lover so that I won't hurt his feelings.

I agree that having a big penis helps. As they say "the bigger the meat, the sweeter the treat". I have never had any complaints in that area, except one old girlfriend of mine wouldnt let me thrust very deep because it was too painful for her. Then again, she was very tight, and we had to use lots of lube to make it work. On the other side, I did once have an encounter with a woman that was so large it was like having sex with a glass of water...I think she was way beyond kiegel exercises, and needed some surgery to fix that. Anyway, the most important sexual organ is between your ears, and I dont mean your nose. You get your head right, and the other body parts will follow.

There is something to the genetics idea -- a woman's response is not always about the guy. I love sex, think about it at the slightest provocation, would do it as many times a day as my husband was able, and I adore my husband. He's a phenomenal lover. Even so, I don't have orgasms with intercourse -- though it feels so good it makes me crazy, and we spend plenty of time, there still isn't enough stimulation to put me over the edge. And as I've gotten older (I'm in my 50's now), it takes more stimulation than when I was younger.

And BTW, has anyone noticed that the percentage of men who have premature ejaculation is roughly the same as the percentage of women who regularly have orgasms during intercourse? Is it possible that a portion of the population just has a very low threshold for orgasm, whether male or female?

to the guy who said that vibrators make it harder for women to come when they don't use them: not so. it's not that women would havc orgasms if only they didn't use vibrators. often they're using the vibrators b'c they can't get there any other way and why go w/o (or fake one) when using more force woud do the trick?

My wife needs something with more power than the average vibrator. Those little battery operated toys just cant do the job...it's like trying to make whipped cream with a toothpick. That's why we use some big electric handheld massage equipment, because it has way more power and gets her where she wants to go in less time.

I share a similar situation with little tony. If "john deere" made marital aids, we would buy them all up!

I don't understand what all the fuss is about on this blog. The media is not necessarily what is wrong with kids these days. The Today Show has never been a "family" show, they are a mainstream America show. Oh wait, I just condemned myself. Mainstream America is super conservative, doesn't understand women and scorns women for wanting to take care of and be in charge of their bodies and themselves.

In my world, NBC can totally do this. The snippet focused on a woman in a relationship getting to know her body. I was surprised that they didn't say penis , vagina or clitoris but... what are you gonna do?

For all you conservative people out there, who obviously have a problem with sex - have you checked out MTV and the like recently? I mean, really. And you're getting upset over a short bit on achieving orgasm. Come on.

Nothing runs like a deere!

ok all you whiners GET A LIFE AND GROW UP!!!!!!!!!! WHAT YA WORRIED ABOUT YOUR BABYSITTER MAKIN YOUR KIDS CURIOUS AND THEN THEY MAY HAVE TO COME BOTHER YOU AND ASK YOU QUESTIONS??? MY GOD WATCH A FRIGGIN UNDERWEAR COMMERCIAL THE SKIN THEY SHOW, OR THE SHOW'S WHERE WOMAN KISS EACH OTHER OH THIS MUST BE OK? AND YOU ALL WORRY ABOUT TALK INSTEAD OF VISUAL MAN OH MAN YOU ALL NEED TO GET LAID AND GET LAID GOOD, GET RID OF YOUR PRUDISH WAY'S GET A LIFE AND START ENJOYING IT INSTEAD OF WORRYING OH 'LITTLE JONNY HEARD THE WORD CLIT OH HE WILL NEED HELP FOREVER NOW, IF YOU ARE THAT WORRIED ABOUT TV GET RID OF IT!!!!! BET YA COULDNT, DO WITHOUT YOURS FOR LONG, I HOPE YOUR KIDS LEARN RIGHT ON TV BECAUSE YOUR TO IGNORANT TO EDUCATE THEM THE FACTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i just want to comment on the way ann curry continully interupts the guests on the today show that they run out of time before finishing the segment and all the women talk over each other that you can't hear a bloody thing that is being said. Also when they play music so loud that they all have to shout over it to be heard. Come on you guys stop all the ruckus and take your turn talking so we can enjoy the show like before when it was katie al and matt on the couch and Ann just doing the news

There is a way for women to have an orgasm during intercourse. It is done missionary, with a specific angle by the man and the woman rocks back and forth with him. Research it on the internet. I don't know the technical position term, but it will change your life!!

I monitor what my children watch because a lot of what is shown on tv is not acceptable in my house. As a parent, I have the responsibility to raise my child the best I possible can. During the day, if the tv is on, the choices are children's programs or the weather channel. I do not believe that my children should be taught about sex by the tv. I know what I was taught (and not taught) as a child. I want my kids better informed. The tv is a form of entertainment.

Who cares about female orgasm? I get mine, let her worry about hers.

what about the so called G spot; does this really exist?

i feel sorry for most women. i don't understand what their problem is. i'm a woman and sex works great every time. if sex doesn't cause an orgasm then what's the point and why do these women think that qualifies as good sex. if all you get is disappointment then why are you having sex. there's nothing new about females and orgasms. what's new is some women not being doormats and not putting men first. sex shouldn't be for someone else, it's something you do because you want it or there's no reason to have sex. it's not up to men to make women have sexual function. it's up to women to take the initiative to get on top and do what works for them. if they can't or don't feel comfortable doing this then they aren't mature enough to be having sex and they don't want sex. so many women think sex isn't supposed to work and they just accept it like that's normal and ok, but you're just getting jipped. it's supposed to work every time and it doesn't take a long time unless you're doing what doesn't work.

That's right. Women need to take more of the initiative about satisfying their needs with their man. The man may not do it, but, stop blaming him and be the aggressor. Take charge and show him what you want. You cant go at this all willy-nilly and expect the fireworks to magically happen. You need to assume responsibility for your own sexuality and turn up the juice. I did, and my marriage has never been better.

Are you kidding me!! people hide their heads in the sand when it comes to sexuality but turn on any evening tv network and it's all about MURDER. WTF??

am 70 an my wife is 59 an she stays happy with me ,an she ask me to give it a brake to much for her i read books for years to learn an am good now , thank you

am 70 an my wife is 59 an she stays happy with me ,an she ask me to give it a brake to much for her i read books for years to learn an am good now , thank you

my wife is (64) 6 yrs older,and has orgasms by my finger, when I enter she just lays there, I know she has never reached a climax, but of couse I don't take long to climax, I would give anything to get together and have a longer secession

my wife is (64) 6 yrs older,and has orgasms by my finger, when I enter she just lays there, I know she has never reached a climax, but of couse I don't take long to climax, I would give anything to get together and have a longer secession

achieving orgasm is of course important, but you have to try other forms of stress relief!i had major surgery due to fibroid disease this year came home from the hospital very sick, hormone therapy not working. taking estradiol is not some magic cure -- ive been on it three months, you will still feel like they removed your brain not your ovaries. i lost my lover of two years, who was turned off by my scar (even though i have a great figure again). that's his loss.

To all who climax easily (both men and women):

You don't understand why a woman would want to have sex if she doesn't achieve orgasm? Let me ask you this - are you just in it for the last 10 seconds? Making love is an experience, not a means to an end. When I've had this question asked of me I always respond by saying that, for me, sex is like kissing. There is no climax to making out but it still feels wonderful and is a shared closeness with your partner. I've never associated sex with orgasm so usually I don't even feel a need to use a vibrator afterwards.

I am a woman who never had an orgasm until I was 24 (when my husband went to boot camp and I bought a vibrator). I thought that I had at times previous to that but, boy, was I wrong! ;) I've had a few sensitive partners who have really tried - with patience and understanding - to get me there but it's just never happened. It takes me about 45 minutes with the vibrator and I just don't know how any non-mechanical stimulus would work. I - or my partner - would be sore by the time I got there. I can't even do it myself manually. My particular problem is that I am both too sensitive and not sensitive enough. Only the barest amount of pressure can be applied (or it hurts!) and you have to maintain that for a loooong time.

Guys, if your lady has a hard time achieving orgasm, don't be jealous of the vibrator - become one with it. Just because you can't get her off with your hand or mouth, doesn't mean you can't do it at all. The best experiences I've had were with men who became part of that process and helped things along with caresses, kisses, talking, etc. In those instances my orgasm is stronger, more satisfying, and happens more quickly and easily. The worst thing for me is a man who can't get over the macho idea that he has to do it all by himself. It just makes me feel bad and stressed out trying to "perform". One last note: just because your woman can't get off, doesn't mean you should stop trying both manually and orally. It still feels great and is SO arousing!

I don't get all the comments and articles I've been reading that say that women don't care if they don't have an orgasm during sex and that the affectionate experience is all that matters. I've never had and orgasm with a guy during sex--only during masturbation--and it frustrates me A LOT which is why I've been looking up info in places like these. I'm hoping the info helps.

To the people who are upset about the subject being discussed on tv where their children might here it: First, I don't see how sex being discussed in such a technical or clinical way could do any damage to your child. It's just information. I could see if it were a "porn" thing but it wasn't. Your kids aren't going to turn into ho's just by hearing about sex on the tv. Second, it's the OTHER stuff that's the problem. It's all the tv shows that depict sex in such an amoral fashion that you have to be worried about. It's the crime dramas and soaps, sitcoms and movies that turn sex into something trashy that you have to be worried about. All you can do these days is be there for your kids and sift through all of that and teach them the values you feel are important about sex. Kids learn more by the way their parents live than by anything on tv.